Welcome to Janis Rosen’s Blog

fw-profile-imageThanks for taking the time to read my blog! I intend to bring you interesting and helpful information.  I have written a variety of Series including Stories of Hope and Healing, The Art of Dreaming and The Subconscious Mind: An Owners Manual, that gives you a peek into your powerful subconscious with great information and tips. As well I have written about different topics that I work with in my counseling and hypnotherapy practice and in my coaching and workshops.

Happy reading,

Janis


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There is No Right Way to Do the Wrong Thing– part 2

 

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There are things that break your self-esteem more easily than others. The ball-breakers of self-esteem. Here are some common esteem breakers:

  • Debt
  • Smoking
  • Being overweight
  • Cheating
  • Lying
  • Not being creative
  • Saying yes when you really want to say no
  • Being a general doormat in your life
  • Not being present in your relationship
  • Judging yourself
  • Judging others
  • Not to mention killing, violence, hurting others, destroying what others value.

So when you are in pain and you really want that cigarette, how do you stop yourself ad keep your self-esteem in tact. How do you get past things that are really hard?

Some people join a group, get a sponsor, and use them. Some people distract themselves, some people pray, or go for something inspiring. There is a way to temporarily stop the esteem-breaking behaviour.

But the most powerful way is to feel the pain, embrace it or honor it, make a place for it. I know you just want it to go away, so you numb it out. You just want to get away from it. But when you are done with that bag of cookies, it’s still there.

You can make a choice to deal with your pain and issues while keeping your self-esteem in tack. While doing the right thing. It’s a harder choice in some ways, but it is the most direct way to your goal.

You started smoking for a reason, you gained weight for a reason. When you decide to deal with the reason, rather than the reaction; with the cause, rather than the symptom; your true transformation begins.

That is what the Alchemy of Weight Loss is about. That spark of esteem that ignites true transformation.


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There is No Right Way To Do the Wrong Thing or why it is important to have good habits part 1

You’ve decided that you want to lose weight. You want this. You think about it every day. It’s important to you for many reasons.

You know that to lose weight, you need to practice good eating habits, make the right food choices most of the time and have good portion control. You need to live a healthy lifestyle, exercise regularly and take care of yourself by getting enough sleep and managing your stress. These habits allow you to successfully reach your goals and maintain them.

So you’ve set these goals for yourself and you’ve decided how you want accomplish them. You decided what your good eating habits look like.

So what happens if today, you don’t eat right, you make bad food choices? You eat foods that don’t support your weight loss and may even sabotage it.

You then feel bad about yourself because you did something wrong. You feel guilty, ashamed, and angry that you didn’t follow through.

Why is it important to do what you say you want to do?

Well you want to reach your goals of course, but more important is that when you make decisions that go against what you really want, you feel bad. You feel bad about yourself.

When you make a bad or a wrong choice, you then have to go through the regret and upset, recover from it and get back on track if you can. Getting back on track can be hard, as you know.

Or you rationalize or deny the bad choice and tell yourself that it wasn’t so bad. It’s not a big deal. You will do better tomorrow. But underneath you feel bad about yourself whether you admit it or not.

And rationalizing can lead to numbing out and producing more bad choices. A vicious cycle is created and you fail. And worse, you feel like a failure.

That’s your self-esteem. When you feel bad because you made a bad choice, it’s like taking a hammer and banging your self-esteem into the ground.

When you do the right thing, you feel good about yourself. You raise your self-esteem. And of course, it’s you who decide what that right thing is and you who know when you aren’t doing it.

Self-esteem has to be earned by you – from you! It’s earned by doing the right thing, even when nobody is looking and even when it’s really, really hard. And believe me, sometimes it’s really, really hard to do the right thing. Ultimately though, it feels really, really good when you do the right thing, especially when it was a struggle and so tempting not to.

You need self-esteem to meet goals, especially those that change and transform you, and you need self-esteem to create great habits and sustain them. Self-esteem is a key component in changing anything.

True lasting change never happens by feeling bad or beating yourself up. It happens by making choices and creating habits that make you feel good about yourself, that raise your self-esteem. Lasting change only happens through positive motivation (such as love, healing, esteem, compassion, forgiveness, hope).

Self-esteem is about having character. It’s character that you use to apply your principles and values in your daily life.

You know the difference between right and wrong because you decided for yourself what is right and wrong for you.

When you live by the principles you set for yourself, you build character and raise your self-esteem.

Self-esteem – holding yourself in the highest possible esteem is key to successful and sustainable change in any area of your life, including weight loss.

Eating the right foods, having portion control and living a healthy lifestyle in a regular and sustainable way comes from good self-esteem. It really does!

The good news is that self-esteem can be built. You can earn esteem from yourself. Truly there is no other way to get self-esteem but to earn it from yourself – by repeatedly doing what you believe is right. And you value yourself enough to give yourself what you really want and deserve out of life.

Before you act, ask yourself are you doing the right thing? You will know. There is no right way to do the wrong thing. When you do what’s right, I guarantee you; your self-esteem will grow higher and higher. You will feel good about yourself, you will gain confidence and meet your goals.

 

 


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Let Your True Story Come Alive! Part 6

what-storyYou tell a story to:

  •  Work something out
  •  Illustrate, teach or share information
  •  Entertain
  •  Create intimacy
  •  Manipulate or indoctrinate
  •  Enlighten
  •  Persuade, convince or convert
  •  Be known

Please visit my coaching page to learn more about my program on transforming your story.


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Stories of Hope and Healing – Elizabeth

ELIZABETH

Liz was my friend. She died too young. She died as she lived – prepared, organized, no unfinished business, except the business of living which she would have liked to continue with but could not.

The year before she died she was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer that had spread. She made the choice to fight it and win. She took every treatment and healing strategy available and reasonable. She was a reasonable person.

Liz was a creative person and took a creative approach to life. She lived her life in a conscious way and she did the same through her illness and death. She was a curious, thoughtful, examiner of life. She believe in personal growth and was a person of faith. She tried to learn from every experience, and leave things better than she found them.

She always made an effort to put positive energy into the world. She loved relating to people and had many friends and loved ones.

Sometimes an illness is a portal for unification, a miracle, for love, a path to raise up a person or a family which are already beautiful, good and true. Sometimes illness is a wake-up call to redirect one’s life, to let something go, to change. Sometimes illness is a way to find out who loves you. Sometimes illness is the path of life itself.

hAnd sometimes illness is a path to die. It is the way out and the body will not survive. Along the way though healing can take place.

Liz’s illness was like that. It was her path to die. As much as she wanted to get better, the cancer was always at least one step ahead of her, never remitting, never giving her a break, but racing on to it’s final conclusion, continuously taking more and more of her life as it went.

Liz spent the final year of her life at home, cherishing each day, hoping for the best outcome, caring for her loved ones, letting go. There came a point where she realized she was going to die.

She liked order and organization and process in life and she had a death that gave her that. She closed off each part of her life skillfully and impeccably. She let it grow smaller, while staying fully present to the experience and felt every emotion. She planned her funeral, picked her music, said good-bye to each and every person she loved in a special and unique way to each. She bequeathed her possessions thoughtfully and carefully. She celebrated and quietly went to sleep and died in her bed at home.

Liz died the same way she lived. In the weeks before she died Liz said,

“This is a good time to die. I have left nothing unfinished. My life is complete.”


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Stories of Hope and Healing – David

DAVID

David is a 45 year old man who lives with a mood and anxiety disorder that is treatable with medication, but has no cure. He is able to function fairly well on a daily basis and have a full personal, work and family life. He goes through cycles where the illness demands more of his time and energy and he has to adjust his life and activities accordingly.

He has learned to cope with what each day brings. He has learned to be flexible, listen to his body and state of mind and act accordingly. He has learned to change things on a dime, to live in the moment, and to breathe. He is a lover of life and has a tremendous capacity to embrace life and whatever it brings everyday.

He is not comfortable with the word healing, but is more comfortable with the word recovery. For him, healing implies closure or resolution. There is some inference that if you are going to heal at some point you will be done. Healing is something you undertake with a particular outcome in mind.

hHe likes the idea of recovery because to him it contains a sense of movement, or is a process toward greater health and well being that is ongoing. Recovery for him is not spiritual but physical – with physical results of greater freedom and capacity to function.

Recovery exists in the present – a kind of biofeedback in relation to what has come before and what you want to do in the future. But it is always expressed in the present. The present communicates to you about how you feel right now in relation to the past- you feel better now than you did last week. In the now, you feel satisfied that you can function and what you want to do (future) and what you can do are closer together.

He sees recovery as “that in-between place where there is movement demonstrated in your life right here and now as a physical being.” That place between what I did and what I want to do. It measures itself in the moment.

He sees illness as a deepening into life, a life path. He says:

“The problem doesn’t have to go away. We just learn how to better cope with it and grow ourselves in a way that leads to a deeper connection with ourselves and life in general. Now, if the problem is resolved and goes away, well, then I would say that this would be a full and complete recovery.”


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Stories of Hope and Healing – Jann

JANN

On Nov. 11, 2000, at age 50, Jann was diagnosed with a mass in the right brain. He had been losing weight, feeling tired, and having headaches. He had brain surgery to remove the mass. The surgery left a slight depression on the right side of his head but otherwise he recovered nicely form the surgery. It was followed by debilitating radiation treatments that caused burning pain in his mouth and jaw, made it impossible to taste, difficult to swallow and eat. He lost a lot of weight and had little energy. Recovery was long and slow and painful.

hHe viewed this life-threatening illness as an opportunity to explore his life, his relationship to God and the Universe, and to re-evaluate his core relationships. He went to work on his life, faced his mortality, and gained new perspective on what was truly important to him. He became a better husband and a better father, less critical and less removed.

About half way through his radiation treatments he became despairing that he could not go on and finish these devastating treatments. He felt trapped by the expectations of his medical team and his family to fight the fight and finish the treatment. But it was so painful and debilitating.

The turning point came when someone said to him that he did not have to finish the radiation if he did not want to. He could say no. It was then that he recognized that it was his choice to continue and was able to own that choice. It made coping with the side effects more manageable.

He came to realize during this ordeal that healing was a comprehensive personal process. He built for himself a multi-layered healing program that involved many layers and modalities. He learned that healing was not necessarily based on one modality or only took place through the medical system. He adopted an investigative approach to his recovery process. He felt that by creating his own program that included numerous facets, he was able to take ownership of his healing process and it became more powerful.

He felt a connection to his spirituality that was deeper than ever before in his life. He examined his beliefs and read about many religious, metaphysical, and mystical ideas and writings. He felt a sense of aliveness and immediacy to living that was unparalled.

Over the following years, Jann became involved the day-to-day mundane of life as his health returned. He went back to work, got on with earning a living for his family. He lost touch with that sense of aliveness and immediacy, though always felt grateful for life. He forgot some of the things he had learned and his passion for his spirituality became somewhat lost in his mundane life.

In November 2009, after experiencing symptoms of headaches, dizziness, and slurred speech, Jann was once again diagnosed with a brain tumor, in precisely the same place as the first one nine years earlier.

He immediately responded to this diagnosis as a wake-up call to reconnect with his spirituality.

He family, as they did the first time, stepped up to support him in his healing, each in their own unique way creating a synergy of support.

His treatment this time was to be 4 weeks of radiation, followed by one gamma knife treatment.

He felt that he was in a different place in his evolution this time than before. He had continued to read and explore cutting edge ideas about consciousness and quantum physics and he had come to believe that the mind could control what happened in the body, that the mind and body could be allies, that the mind could direct the body. And he set to work putting his beliefs and ideas into action, into practice.

It was interesting to him that the tumor this time was mostly fluid, not solid. He felt that it was a reminder to him to truly embrace a living spirituality every day that he had forgotten about over the years.

He decided that the outcome of this recurrence was less important than the messages from his Soul. He realized that a 2nd cancer, made longevity an uncertain proposal. He was at peace with that uncertainty and believed that he could still heal, even if he did die.

He once again created a healing map, chose for himself a number of healing modalities that he felt appropriate. He set to work to create a new platform for his life of being deeply connected to his true self, his Soul, and his spirituality.

Using hypnosis, he worked with his subconscious, his beliefs, and his life story. But most vital for him was to realize that he had a passion for his spirituality that he would never let go of as long as he lived. That for him was his key and his core.

He decided that this time he would create a completely different relationship to the radiation treatment that once before had brought him to his knees. He decided to remain calm, focused, and empowered as his baseline attitude.

He set out creating the belief that having understood the reason for his recurrence, that it was already gone. It had done it’s job by bringing his spirituality back into focus. That the radiation was the physical means, the tool, to remove the physical manifestation.

Throughout the treatment, he maintained his weight, he ate, and continued to function well, and recovered from the treatment much more quickly. He regularly envisioned the tumor shrinking and disappearing.

At this time the tumor is gone and the treatment has been deemed successful. Jann does not see this as a success though. He sees healing as a spiritual process that we all have to do in our lives, synonymous to growth. He believes that you have to work at it. It is something you orient yourself to as a continuous day-to-day way of life.

Jann sees healing as a relationship in which he is not isolated or alone.

We are all aiding one another – there is healing going on everywhere, all the time, in a quantum physics kind of way. We are all part of the field; we all can help one another heal.

His thoughts about health, healing and longevity when recently asked are this:

“I wake up everyday, I feel grateful – hey, I am alive and where I find myself today is where I find myself.”


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Let Your True Story Come Alive! Part 8

readingAre you living the right story:

  • Are you living your dream or do you keep pushing it too far in the future?
  • Where do you belong? Who is your community? Your tribe?
  • Are you confused about what you want to do or how to get there?
  • Do you feel guilt or self-doubt?
  • Are you afraid of success or failing?
  • Do you deserve and are you willing to receive what you want?
  • Do you want help in rewriting your story?

Please visit my coaching page to learn more about my program on transforming your story.


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Let Your True Story Come Alive! Part 7

bookJust the high points

  • Our lives are a story.
  • Stories are an integral part of our life from birth.
  • In your life there is a true story you are trying to tell.
  • You tell your story by living it.
  • I work with people who are not living their true story.
  • Your true story is the story of your Valued Self: awareness, respect, esteem, love, confidence, worth and realization. It is a story of being good enough.
  • Your true story is the story you came here to tell. The one you really want to live.

When you uncover your true story and start to live it:

  • Life won’t be so hard.
  • You’ll experience a richness and a fullness that wasn’t there before.

Please visit my coaching page to learn more about my program on transforming your story.


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Let Your True Story Come Alive! Part 5

storybook2Every experience leaves a trace.

Your life story is recorded in the memory banks of your subconscious mind. Every thought, word, deed, action, choice is there. Within your subconscious mind are templates that hold deep reserves of memory, association, feeling and belief that make up your narrative. Your subconscious records everything. You give it weight, order and meaning.

I have been telling stories for years.

As a hypnotherapist, when I work with you, I tell a story to your subconscious mind, based on what you tell me and what result you want. It has to be believable to the subconscious mind, otherwise it won’t accept it. Therefore, I must be a truth-teller in my work.

Please visit my coaching page to learn more about my program on transforming your story.


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Let Your True Story Come Alive! Part 4

I work with people who are not living their true story.

When you change your false story to a true one, you:

  • Create a hand-crafted, authentic life where nothing goes to waste.
  • Turn regrets and sorrows into learning and growing.
  • Deepen your compassion, gratitude and joy of living.

When you heal your deepest wounds, you:

  • Honor and take care of yourself in healthy, new ways.
  • Resolve your paradoxes and contradictions.
  • Own your power.
  • Temper your negative ego and learn to recognize its lies and false stories.
  • Let your character, truth and integrity be your guide.

glassesYour true story is buried, not clear. Your perspective is skewed. My job is to help you see your true story—which may end up being very different from what you thought it was. Each pass you take at understanding and healing your story uncovers more of its true power. Of its light. Of its meaning and purpose. Nothing goes to waste. Everything that happened has value.

Please visit my coaching page to learn more about my program on transforming your story.


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