There are things that break your self-esteem more easily than others. The ball-breakers of self-esteem. Here are some common esteem breakers:
- Being overweight
- Not being creative
- Saying yes when you really want to say no
- Being a general doormat in your life
- Not being present in your relationship
- Judging yourself
- Judging others
- Not to mention killing, violence, hurting others, destroying what others value.
So when you are in pain and you really want that cigarette, how do you stop yourself ad keep your self-esteem in tact. How do you get past things that are really hard?
Some people join a group, get a sponsor, and use them. Some people distract themselves, some people pray, or go for something inspiring. There is a way to temporarily stop the esteem-breaking behaviour.
But the most powerful way is to feel the pain, embrace it or honor it, make a place for it. I know you just want it to go away, so you numb it out. You just want to get away from it. But when you are done with that bag of cookies, it’s still there.
You can make a choice to deal with your pain and issues while keeping your self-esteem in tack. While doing the right thing. It’s a harder choice in some ways, but it is the most direct way to your goal.
You started smoking for a reason, you gained weight for a reason. When you decide to deal with the reason, rather than the reaction; with the cause, rather than the symptom; your true transformation begins.
That is what the Alchemy of Weight Loss is about. That spark of esteem that ignites true transformation.